This page is no longer my blog but is for the use of those who are doing one of the following three complementary Radical Living courses:
1. Radical Forgiveness
2. Radical Self-Forgiveness/Self-Acceptance
3. Radical Manifestation
My blog is now at www.colintipping.com
Participant:
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Before and during my first worksheet, I could not get my head around why I should have been molested and abused, why would a child ask for that. Then it hit me that I had to be willing, not necessarily to believe, that I had made a contract with the other souls before my lifetime to experience these things, although I do not know why I should want to, and if there is another ‘world’ then I will find out after this lifetime.
I guess the lesson is to accept what has happened, to be willing to accept it happened for a reason and to let go of the feelings that I was repressing and reliving which were preventing me from having a happy life in order for me to have one.
Am I right?
Hi Karen,
You are exactly right. Willingness is all that is required. Belief is not. Just top be open to the possibility is enough. Your Spiritual Intelligence knows the truth.
Blessings,
Colin
Hello. My name is Louise and my first language is french.I’ll do my best to write in english but it’s easier for me to reed or listen .I bought the book” radical self forgivenee” and started to reed it on my computer, but few minutes after i received the message: expired download link. How can i have access to the text again? Thank you for helping me. Louise Bernard
It appears you might have tried to download it again instead of accessing the file you saved on your computer. Look for the saved version you already have.
Blessings
Colin
I was shown your Radical Forgiveness book in a dream……that day upon awakening I went out and purchased your book. It changed my life, and my view on my life.
I am now signed up for your Radical Manifestation Course. The worksheet has been VERY helpful. It helped me put feeling and meaning to that which I wish to manifest.
I am grateful to you for helping change my life
Good luck with the RM Course, Allison.
Hello Colin, thank you for you Worksheet which is imbedded with Magic Forgiveness. I was wondering about a situation where a deep bond was created with a psychic healer who became my friend. I suddenly felt misunderstood, manipulated, frightened, disappointed and angry with her, although she is very nice and gentle. I am not sure who I should forgive in this case? I still want to be friends but something has changed in our relationship and I keep thinking and feeling upset about it. Thank you for your advice.
Hi Christina,
The first thing it to trust your gut. Something isn’t right. Do the worksheet on the ‘friend’ even if you can’t put your finger on the specific issue. The important thing is to be with your feelings without making them wrong. As you go through the 8-day program it may become clearer.
Blessings,
Colin
I love the worksheets and will use them until the issue is healed
Ann
Radical Forgiveness came into my life right on time. Originally, I declared January of this year to be my focus on forgiveness. I am amazed at how much resentment I am carrying. The one statement in the audio book that woke me was that ‘holding resentment is like me drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.’ What a perspective (thank you)!
I have done two worksheets so far and one 7-step session. But now I am preparing for the ultimate victim letter (no way near enough space on the worksheet) to my father. How is the process affected if this is spread over a few days? I am doing my first
Hi Yolanda,
It’s OK to spread it over a few days so long as you keep the momentum, and don’t leave it too long between the first and the other two letters.
Blessings,
Colin
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I am drafting an outline to make sure I cover all the time periods of my life affected to tell him how his actions and lack thereof effected me — is this too much?
No. Write as much as you need to write.
Colin
Since I know that healing the issues with my father will help a lot of core issues manifesting in other ways, and because I want total healing and pattern recognition so as not to attract those same dramas into my life over and over, is it recommended to do both the 7-Step process and the Radical Forgiveness Worksheet on the same person?
Yes. Both processes on the same person.
Colin
Thanks so much for your timely responses! This work is great.
Colin,
I am not new to the worksheets and I am with ANTARYAAMI attending regular workshops on RF, RSF and RM. In a group we also play satori. But when i joined the free course and did the first worksheet….it was like opening a pandora box! So much has come up and I feel even more angry and frustrated. It took me a loooong time to finish the sheet. I feel tired and drained out. I didnt realise I have so much more stored and stuffed in my sub-conscious.
Hi Bangla,
Because you have done the work before you were primed for a substantial release of stuffed emotion by doing this worksheet. It’s all good. Stuffed negative emotions are toxic so you have already, self-lovingly, achieved a great deal by bringing them to the surface. I believe your subconscious mind will only bring up what it knows you can deal with, so trust the process, feel the feelings and complete the rest of the course. I feel confident that the anger and frustration will dissipate very soon.
Love
Colin
Hi Collin, I just started with the radical manifestation course. there were emotions of lack driving my need to create what i wanted to. Is this ok?
also when we are to give a percentage value to why we need what we want to create, in terms of self gratification, self transformation etc… do we mark these out of hundred or do we mark each separately?
Hi Madhurima,
No matter what the feeling is, it is OK. Mark all three of them out of 100 so you can see the proportions, one to another.
Keep going,
Colin
Hi Colin, found your Radical Forgiveness book on my favorite bookstore one night last year and even though I felt I had successfully forgiven my “offenders” I bought it because I like your approach (I love Caroline Myss point of view so smiled at your reference) and then, pufffff!… I started to apply your perspective in everything (had not done the link … you are NEAT! thanks) I recommended it to some friends whom are in the same path of forgiveness and they adore it yet found it “radically shifting and somehow emotional overwhelming” (They don´t speak english, so I guess will have to wait until this version of your course is translated)
I wrote a letter to myself and put it on my heart’s desire treasure box and just let the whole thing unfolds without trying too hard on it… so many things had happened since then… (without your perspective to clarify my mind on those challenging and scaring moments I would probably be traveling on the foggy victim-land)
Yesterday, when starting the Radical Self-Forgiveness course I was just noticing with painful remorse (ooops) how much I still hold blame to myself (even now it is hard for me to recognize it) and toxic shame (this period I am acutely aware of this “i hate myself for being far than perfect” moments). This is sabotaging me (the good thing is that light is shining onto…)
A friend of mine sent me the EFT eyesight experiment which I am doing by my own and so many hidden and repressed emotions are being exposed now and so I am, feeling blessed for getting the chance to ask you in person (I deeply appreciate your support) while addressing my wounds with empowering and compassionate EYES.
With appreciation and joy
Angélica
It’s great that you are doing this work with so much self-awareness. Once you have completed the whole course I think you will find that you will be a lot more peaceful.
Colin
Hi Colin,
Doing the Radical Self-Forgiveness Worksheet again this morning I had so many other topics other than what I was working on coming up and I just lost it and couldn’t stop crying for a while..I felt like running away and hiding somewhere so no one could find me and I could start again..It did pass but I am gettinf really overwhelmed with it and that is why I did the sheet again. I feel like I have so many subjects to work on although your book says they are all the one subject I’m just getting it in many different ways to see the learning and heal..I am aware of so much from my childhood that I wasnt back then..The thing is I feel like I dont fit with my family and some friends anymore I just cannot listen to there stuff without seeing the bigger picture but if I mention that they think I’m cold or up with the fairies and they blame my partner for me being different now although he isnt doing the learning I am and he never says anything about them at all ever.I feel like I just dont want to be around them at all and that makes me feel a little lost as if I’m not sure now where I should be or what I should be doing.I am just so different to the person they know me as..What would be best for me as I do this work with my family please..
Hi Colleen,
It can only be good that so much feeling is coming to the surface to be released. It can feel overwhelming at first, but it is the most healing thing you can do for yourself. Don’t forget, though, we do have coaches who are trained in this work and can help you if it gets too much and you need support. You’ll find the list of coaches on our website, http://www.colintipping.com.
Colin
For the first time in a very long time I awoke to simple and irrelevant thoughts rather than the constant flashback loop of my former marriage. My x hasn’t been in my thoughts for most of this day. Wow! I have been doing spiritual work for the past two years and I am glad I found your Radical Forgiveness strategy. I listened to the seminar and followed along, then did the worksheet. I can finally say I appreciate that my x truly did teach me my greatest lessons. I get it-that we were each other’s mirrors for the thing we each needed to learn. He showed me how I minimized, discounted and ignored myself and I showed him anger and rage. We were quite the miserable pair! Letting go of this energy is a very freeing feeling! Thank you
Hello. As you asked me to do, i tried to access the file i saved but it says: file not found. Expired download link. Whayh can i do? Thank you for helping me. Louise
Re: 05/01/2012
I checked with tech support and they said the following. “She is still clicking the link to download the file instead of finding it on her computer. Tell her she has to find where she saved it, probably her download folder, and open it from there. Tell her not to click on the download link.” Hope this solves the problem.
Colin
Hi Colin!
I have been so impressed with your Radical Living process since I listened to you the other day on Julie-Ann Shapiro’s webcast. I was lucky enough to have you answer my question (about the pattern of cheating men in my life) and I have dove head first into the Radical Forgiveness, Self-Forgiveness and Manifestation online programs. Thank you so much for all of your work and the massive amount of information you are providing.
I would like you to know that I felt immediately lighter and more joyful after doing Radical Forgiveness, and have literally no residue of bitterness or anxiety with my past relationships that I chose to forgive. I feel like those old wounds have healed up and am patient and aware that I need to allow my current relationship to unfold and see what happens. I’m not afraid anymore, though, just watchful.
The self-forgiveness has been more difficult. I find myself still having the same negative self-talk, however I notice it and stop it abruptly when it comes up. What are your thoughts on that response?
Everyone says now much more difficult self-forgiveness is, but the remedy is the same – use the tools. It often takes more time to get the kind of results you got from the Radical Forgiveness process, but keep doing it.
Blessings,
Colin
Hi Colin!
First of all I want to say thanks for all your doings and acknoledge your wisdom
and understanding of humah hature.
I was born in very good family, even fantastic loving family where I was number ONE.
Both my parents were scients. Everyone loved me and people predicted great future for me, so I were grewing up being myself- only myself and trusting only to my Heart.
I knew that everything is magic and the infinite love is only reality, no matter people says. But once I fell down and felt unbearable shame and pain, I have lost faith to myself and GREAT LOVING REALITY and begun to hate myself. From this moment I started losing my gifts, power and so on.
I begun believe not to my Heart but to people, started feeling GUILT BEFORE PEOPLE, WORLD AND GOD, thinking that if I would not doing it God will punish and I be alone in the whole world. But once met my great love by the name of ANN. It was amazing time, like THE GREAT TIME OF CHILDHOOD. I again realised that THE DREAM IS NOT DREAM whatsoever but THE TRUE REALITY. By the time I were losing this feeling And again start to feel self-hatred, shame and so on. But something rested in me and I begun realise that what people considers as a true, is not true. I begun read a lot of so-called spirituall authors, practizing positive thinking and so on. But it was only worse. Finally so tired of hating myself, and realised that only thing I really want is simply to be myself – my real self. In order to feel, live and love, I should not be Jesus or Budha, after all.
Telling my story I again want to say thanks for your wisdom, kindness and frankness.
So I have a couple of guestions.
When I begin being myself, I GET STARTED TO FEEL A FEAR, UNCERTAINTY, SHAME AND SELF-HATRED LIKE -ARE YOU WORTHY TO BE HAPPY ?, WHAT A YOU THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF ? YOU THINKING YOU ARE SMTH SPECIAL ?
FROM THIS ARISE MANY DOUBTS, GUESTIONS WHICH DO NOT GIVE ME SLEEP?
SHOULD I BE TRUE ONLY MYSELF?
I HONESTLY WANT RELATE TO PEOPLE AS REALLY WANT TO AND MAY I DO SO ?
SHOULD I BE ONLY MYSELF AND LIVE AS I REALLY WANT TO LIVE?
IS IT TRUE WHAT DAN SHIMODA SAYS, IN THE BOOK OF RICHARD BACH – ILLUSSIONS?
You have no choice but to be with the feelings, but you do have the choice to love yourself having them. After that, it’s a case of doing the work. I would recommend you do the online Self-Forgiveness/Self-Acceptance program.
Blessings,
Colin
On what marks to be the worst day in my life, I was lead to a website that had your book. I immediately went to my local Boarders and bought it. As soon as I went to the self-help section, your red book radiated from the shelf. I went home, feeling at my worst, opened your book to Jill’s Story and it was amazing to experience that shift. I went from an intense sadness/heaviness to a profound lightness. I had a sense of hope and it resonated with me more than words can describe. A week later, my mother gave me a list of classes that were starting at our church. It was a Radical Forgiveness weekly meeting! I also go a chance to meet you. It was so divine to be able to experience that synchronicity; to know that behind the scene, something really is working! It shattered my logical brain I so depended on. Also, you state that people don’t wake up until they have more suffering in their life-which is usually around the age of 50. Well, I think that people are waking up sooner now, because I “reached my peek” at the age of 23. It took about 2 more years of resistance to get there, but I am there now!!!!! I just wanted you to know that your book is reaching all ages and I think that this evolution of human consciousness is changing right before our eyes. Thank you for being all that you are. Thank you for changing my life completely.
With love,
Amber
Thank you for sharing this Amber. I will share it with my sister Jill. She’ll be so happy for you. It’s wonderful that you have woken up at such a tender age. Perhaps it’s a sign that the mass awakening is beginning to occur.
Love and blessings,
Colin
Hello Colin,
I did the workshet on Radical Selfforgiveness yesterday and got tears in my eyes for the way I think about myself – worthless, boring and ugly. My parents often told me they wished I was more like my younger sister, who was a lot more fun to be around. I was a more serious kind of kid and sometimes hated my sister for being the favourit. My mother gave me the responsibility to take her to school everyday when I was 9 and she was 6 years old, witch I didn’t like because she didn’t want to obey me and I wanted to be free. One fatal day she didn’t wait for me, but left with a girlfriend and crossed a road without looking, she got hit by a truck and died in hospital that night.
Later that year my father said to me he wished I had died instead of my sister and I still carry around the idea that would have been better, even after 54 years. On the worksheet I forgave myself for hating my sister sometimes, but I still feel ashamed of being me, although I also got tears in my eyes for my selfdenial. I am alive and I want to LIVE and accept myself! Do I have to do the worksheet over and over again until I feel total love for myself and my sister? Grieving over her death always felt like being a hypocrite. Thank you for helping me with this.
Friendly greetings,
Yolande
Hi Yolande,
I can see why you would feel bad about yourself given what your parents said to you and what happened to your sister. I think the self-forgiveness will help a lot but there a lot of forgiveness to be done towards your parents for making you feel less than your sister, and for the cruel thing your father said for you, not to mention the need to forgive your sister for being the favorite and even for dying. So, take a look at the 21 day program for Forgiving Your Parents, and or the 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Sibling. Do one of them at least. You might also read what I have to say about grieving on my website. http://www.colintipping.com/strategies/radical-grieving/ Hope this helps.
Blessings,
Colin
I was abandoned by Husband 7 months ago. He had not call me nor my child since he left
my son is really having a hard time. My purpose in life is to be of service to our youth and young adult. I really want to teach them this method. My heart bleeds for them. However, due to finances I can’t afford the coaching course right now. Where would you recommend I start.
Love
Madeline
Hi Madelaine, Make good use of everything that is free on our website so you can heal yourself and get your prosperity levels up. There’s any amount of free stuff on the site. Make good use of the tools and all three of the free courses. Then you can think about doing the training.
Blessings,
Colin
Hi Colin
I find your work amazing, very simple by very effective. I have read your sisters story, thank you for sharing, it really touched my heart and gave me insight on the potential problems caused by childhood beliefs and patterns. I commenced the radical forgivenss worksheet, firstly for my father, as I believe most of my issues today have been caused because of him. My query is this: I understand the people we attract in our life today are here to heal us from our past wounds and beliefs. Those we attract also come to us with similar past behaviours if we have not truly let them go and healed. Therefore, I understand the connections that come into our life now, but what I am having difficutly understanding is the lesson I needed to learn as a child with an abusive father. Espcecially with the collapsing the story part on the worksheet.?? Thanks Colin for all your support and wisdom and I look forward to hearing your thoughts. Best wishes Rosy.
Hi Rosy,
Most of the time we have have no idea what our lessons are, or why we ‘chose’ particular experiences for our lives. We are not meant to know. We will only understand when we go ‘home’ and go through our life review. All we have to do here is be open to the idea that there was a purpose in you having and abusive father, that you chose him and that what you suffered was what your soul wanted to experience – for whatever reason. The Collapsing of the Story step is simply to allow you to have some compassion for him and for yourself and to assist you in letting go of being a victim. So stop trying to figure it all out.
Blessings,
Colin